ok so I'm going to sum this up.
I'm using vista with windows firewall.
iremote would not conect to itunes, atALL.
I turned off the firewall and it worked, great!
So i go into my firewall settings and itunes is allowing all incoming connections already, yet when the firewall is on, it blocks it.

Does anybody know what port iremote uses so i can directly allow it through my firewall? That seems to be my only option.

Thanks in advance.