I just got the ip4 for my little bro, it's at 4.0.1 and jb and unlocked. should I upgrade to 4.3.3 and jb again or 4.0.1 should be fine?
the 4.0.1 that I notice now is doesn't have Personal HotSpot option other than that I dont know what else different
Well then you have 4.3.3 SHSH. If you do want to update I suggest using pwnage tool or snowbreeze to make a custom 4.3.3 firmware and restore to that in itunes. Do not under any circumstances restore to 4.3.5. That will kill your chances to unlock.
Gamecenter and AirPlay. Not a whole lot difference though no. You may want to stay put until there is a safe 5.0 jailbreak out sometime after 5.0 gets released. That will be a worthy update.
Not sure why tiny umbrella doesn't see your phone. Try running it as admin if you are on windows.