I found a few solutions to what I'm trying to do but some of them seem a little complicated and unnecessary. I want to know the best way to do this.
My wife and I have iPhones, mine is synced on my desktop and hers is synced on her laptop. She wants to download music and audiobooks I have in my library and I want to do the same on her laptop.
I don't want to sync her iphone on my itunes because then she loses all her media.
you can sync multiple computers in the home by turning on Home Sharing in itunes that way you can browse each others pc for files and transfer ( both pc have to be on and itunes running). Hope this helps